Your dating life needs a better feedback loop.

Feedback is disincentivized in dating

A date that goes nowhere never tells you why. You are left to debug from silence- and you might walk away with the wrong lessons.

Advice is generic, not focused

Dating advice tries to be one-size-fits-all.  I start from scratch, meet you exactly where you are, and together, we can reach places the traditional advice would never have conceived of.

Practice in the real world has real costs

What if you didn't have to ruin your chances with a romantic interest by practicing on them?  It's kinda messed up actually that we don't create space to explicitly practice dating skills.

Learn more about my approach and find out if we're a good fit.

One 60-minute session to uncover core blockers for you.  You'll walk away with a clearer picture of what's holding you back, plus homework: one field assignment to try in the wild and one written assignment.

Want my feedback on your homework? Enroll in the 12-Week Transformation or book a Single Consult as a follow-up.

Credited toward 12-week program if you enroll within two weeks.

A 90-minute practice date in a public venue that you plan, followed by a 45-minute debrief and a written report on what worked and what did not.

A rehearsal with honest feedback, like a mock interview.

Over twelve weeks we identify gaps, build skills, adopt new habits, practice, get feedback, iterate, and build lasting confidence

• 90-minute intake on your history, patterns and goals
• Weekly one-hour sessions, in person in SF or by video
• Every week, one field assignment in the wild and one written assignment, both reviewed with me
• Somatic Evaluation included, if you want one
• Two practice dates with written debriefs
• Profile rebuild and photo help
• Text and email support, answered within one business day

Hourly rate for bespoke session of your choosing.  Also the way to get my feedback on your Discovery homework.

Credited toward 12-week program if you enroll within two weeks.

Support once you have launched into a real relationship. Four sessions a month plus messaging, for the first six months when everything is new.

Couples sessions are available when you both opt in.

Is a practice date weird?

It is a rehearsal, not a date. We meet somewhere public, it is booked and paid in advance, and the point is the debrief afterward.

Can't I get this from an AI coach?

Information is rarely the problem. You need practice with a real person who will tell you the truth afterward. That is the human in the loop.

Do I have to want something serious?

No. I work with people looking for a life partner and people who want to enjoy dating more. Getting good at the second often leads to the first.

Is this therapy?

No. I am a coach, not a therapist. If something comes up that needs clinical support, I will say so and help you find the right person.  I have a network of trusted therapists, personal trainers, stylists, dermatologists and dance instructors to whom I can refer you.

Do you guarantee results?

Nobody honestly can. What I offer is a refund on your first session if we are not a fit.

Where do we meet?

In person in San Francisco, or by video. Practice dates and Somatic Evaluations are in person. Between sessions we work by text and email.

What is the homework like?

Two kinds. A field assignment is a small real-world exercise, matched to your level, that you try and report back on. A written assignment is a short reflection that helps you see your own patterns. In the 12-Week Transformation you get one of each every week.

What is a Somatic Evaluation?

It is not a dance lesson. It is a few minutes of simple movement to a beat, and learning to tune in to your partner physically while maintaining your own frame.  You don't have to know anything about dance. The movement practice is followed by honest feedback on what your body communicates. It is always optional, and it is feedback most people never get.